is a problem that currently affects 17% of the population. The
infertility rate is rising, for a number of reasons: 1) women
are waiting longer to have children in order to pursue their careers
2) we as people, are exposed to more toxins which may have an
adverse effect on fertility 3) and the stress in our everyday
life has increased dramatically from that of 20 years ago.
is described as the inability to conceive after a period of 18
Most practioners will treat a couple after 12 months of infertility.
Generally, the couple should begin by seeing a reproductive endocrinologist
who specializes in working with infertility. By going immediately
to a reproductive endocrinologist, the couple can avoid months
of missed diagnoses and procedures which would
have had little success.
women who suffer from infertility often feel as if: 1) their bodies
have betrayed them 2) they are not fully women because they are
unable to give birth 3) that their infertility is a "punishment
from God" for past sins. Men often report: 1) That they feel
as if they are not very "manly" because they are "unable
to impregnate their wife" 2) that their genetic line will
end with their death and 3) that they are failures in making their
a specialist in working with infertile couples, I encourage couples
to focus on their other attributes aside from that of being a
parent. This philosophy has been adopted from the Domar Model,
which emphasizes the importance of taking the focus off of becoming
who focus solely on having a child, often become depressed and
frustrated, as they begin to define themselves by their inability
to have children. Essentially, they begin to believe that they
are complete and total failures in every aspect of their lives,
because they cannot reproduce.
I recommend that couples only talk about their infertility struggles
for a set period of time each day. I also get them to focus on what
they enjoy doing, so they can bring some joy back in their lives.
The reason I treat couples in this fashion, is that studies have
shown that hormones that negatively affect one's ability to conceive,
are released throughout the body, when one is stressed or depressed.
Nurturing one's self can make the difference in the struggle with